Have you ever questioned your worth? I know I have. I thought that I wasn’t good enough, no matter how hard I tried or what I did, I just wasn’t able to measure up.
I doubted what I wanted, what I felt, and what I needed and began to defer to others to make sure I was doing things right.
After constant editing, fixing, adjusting, polishing, pleasing, and smiling, I was burned out, frustrated, and disconnected, not only myself, but from those I loved as well.
I no longer lived my life trusting my experience or my ability to get what I wanted, and I stopped relying on my own instincts and adding my unique view, because I doubted I had one, and if I did, that it mattered.
I had handed the key to feeling worthy over to others who had no idea how to use it because it wasn’t theirs. No wonder I felt unworthy, I was living my life through someone else’s eyes who lacked to ability to truly see who I was. I had locked my ability to feel worthy in a box that only I could open, but I no longer had the key.
To open that box and own my worth, I needed to trust my instinct and see their value.
The reason you feel unworthy is because you aren’t trusting your instincts. When you question your instincts, who you innately are, you diminish your value.
I started to question my instincts because I felt following my instincts got me in trouble. For me trouble felt like love being pulled away, ignored, disregarded. To get love and acceptance I felt I had to be different. I valued being loved over being myself, and at first, I thought this was a worthwhile trade. So, I went into my head to drowned out my instincts and be the way I “should” in order to be loved. But, this led me to questioning my worth and feeling powerless in my life.
It is natural human instinct to want to fit in with the tribe but what I didn’t realize at the time is what I really wanted was to feel a part of the tribe. Fitting in isn’t the same as being a part of the tribe. Being a part of something will never ask you to sacrifice yourself, because when you sacrifice yourself you aren’t a part of it. We all want love and to be a part of something, but you will never feel loved and be a part of it until you are authentic and trust your instincts.
No one else can tell you what your instincts are, they can’t be taught because they are already a part of you. Only you will know how to use the key to open your box. Trusting your instincts to someone or something else, will always lead you to feel unworthy because they will never know how to use it because it is no theirs.
Intellectually we understand that we all have worth, but it is time that we start to feel this in our body so we can stop the constant questioning of our value. Our worth is inherent. They fact that you are here reading this post is all the proof you need that you have worth. It is time to change the question from how can I discover my worthy to, where am I handing my key over to someone else? Where have I stopped trusting my instincts? Using yoga to get out of my head an into my body helped me reconnect to myself and is my go-to any time I feel stuck, confused, or doubting that I have anything to offer.
Once you live from your instincts, you will find your worth! Where have you stopped trusting yourself?
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